Some years ago, well a decade really, my life looked very different. Wellness was important, but it wasn’t my passion. I had been busy going to school a few years earlier while raising four children on my own, and life had handed me some ups and downs as it is prone to do. As I was in one of those troughs at the bottom of a down cycle, facing a divorce after a short marriage and a little depressed, I decided I was going to act like I wanted to be: active, healthy and having fun being a single mom. I started running, biking, swimming, working out regularly, I bought a kayak, and started going camping and hiking during the summer with my kids and I even decided to do a triathlon.
It took a little while, but before I knew it, I was an active, healthy single mom having a lot of fun. That particular trough taught me a lot about myself, but also a lot about fitness and happiness which was the start of my passion for becoming strong, happy and healthy.
So, for the past ten years I have been actively researching and learning everything I can about wellness, and weaving my passion into every part of my life. Today I am a commercial banker with a passion for wellness, but who knows what the future holds. I have realized that my journey may take me to destinations I had never dreamed of.
YOU DON’T GET WHAT YOU WISH FOR. YOU GET WHAT YOU WORK FOR.
Let’s back up slightly to 2013, the year I found and married my soul-mate(I know, sounds a little corny, but it is an apt description) . Before we met, I was living my passion for wellness, but love sometimes changes our perspective a bit. Suddenly I wanted to be with this wonderful man all the time, but we had slightly different outlooks on some things, where I loved healthy eating, he loved all the fat, sugar and junk he could ingest. I loved working out, he loved TV. It wasn’t long after we married that I started a fast downward spiral as I started living his lifestyle. Now let me be clear, he enjoys his lifestyle, but I didn’t. I didn’t like the way I was feeling, I had aches and pains, nausea, headaches, no energy and couldn’t sleep. That just wasn’t me.
After a few false starts, I finally found my groove again at the beginning of 2016 when I decided it was time to resurrect the real me. I started eating healthy again, exercising, and living more of the old lifestyle. Over a fairly short period of time I started feeling better again too. Now, I don’t know if I’ll ever truly convert my husband to my lifestyle, but he did make some new year’s resolutions for 2017 and he is exercising a bit, and has even choked down a few unsweetened, green smoothies in the past month.
If you want to see pictorial evidence of my journey, you can check it out on my fitness page, to see where I’m at in getting my old body back. Yes, there was a 42 pound consequence to living that other lifestyle and I am still in the process of correcting that. But what the pictures don’t show is the increased vitality I have now that wellness is again my priority.
Let me say that being thin, strong, wealthy or even healthy, doesn’t necessarily equate to happiness. I have been generally happy all of my life and have certainly been happy the last few years, but I was dissatisfied with some of my choices since I had met my husband and needed to bring my choices back in line with my values. True happiness comes from within and is not dependent on a certain set of circumstances or a specific number on a scale.
The happy I am referring to is not the transient happiness that comes from all being right in the world, but rather the deeper, lasting, meaningful happiness or joy that transcends all the challenges and trials that come in everyone’s life. Studies suggest that 40% of our happiness is attributed to things over which we have control, 50% comes from our genetic makeup and 10% is determined by life circumstances.
Thus the key to our happiness is changing the 40% we can control by choosing our attitude, and making positive choices in our lives. Those choices can include good health habits, motivation, effort, commitment to goals, a supportive social network and learning to be content with what we have in the here and now. Some other things we can do to cultivate happiness, is:
• spend time with and nurture our relationships with family and friends
• express gratitude, even when things aren’t the way we want them to be
• be kind
• be optimistic
• live in the present moment
• be charitable
Today, I’m passionate about do overs and helping others make positive lifestyle changes on their journey to becoming the very best version of themselves at any age. I want everyone to realize there is always the possibility of change, there is always hope and life is good even when circumstances aren’t.
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